...standing on their own two feet....
I danced to that as a witch in my Grade 4 play. Just a bit of Tuesday trivia for you.
Meg and Amy are pretty self reliant. I don't mean the leave them here with a carving knife, a chook and a box of matches kind of self reliant but the find your own fun, play together without adult assistance/ interference, go to sleep without mummy holding your hand kind of thing (not that there's anything wrong with all that but it's just not the way we do things). Anyway, they are pretty self reliant. Most of the time I encourage and praise this. It is important to me that they are kids who question things, think outside the box and make their own decisions. For cultural reasons this is less important to K who occasionally baulks at their free spiritedness. My favourite example was when we took them to a gospel concert and they climbed down from the bleachers and danced beside the stage. I was pleased as punch to see them enjoying themselves and the music so much. K was rather horrified and embarrassed.
Occasionally though even I think they are going a bit far and I reign them in a bit. Unsupervised cooking is definitely a no when you are 4 years old. As is giving your sister a time out because she annoyed you (Meg). These are easy for me to stop as I see it as a safety or parent's role not child's role issue.
But at the moment I have a bit of a quandary. Meg has made up a rewards chart. Yes, bad parenting I know but we used rewards charts to toilet train them. That all finished years ago though. But it seems Meg still remembers:
She wrote it in a rush and didn't finish but what she's got says "Megumi and Amy" Inside the sunshine it says "Let's do our best to get our reward" The picture is a dog she split in half with Amy's side on the left and hers on the right. She has written the numbers 1-10 for each of them. This paper is magnetted to the fridge.
Each morning this conversation ensues:
Did you wee your bed last night?
I didn't wee my bed either!
Let's colour in another number!
Despite the fact that they don't wet the beds anymore anyway this conversation is always conducted with great surprise and excitement.
And the reward they are working towards? A big hint to what Meg wants is right there on the poster- a real puppy. Poor kid has been wanting a dog for over a year now and while it would be difficult when we go away we would love to make her dream come true if it wasn't for the fact that she is allergic to dogs and comes out in hives when she touches them. Poor kid.
And Amy? Meg's suggestion for our little mother to all the dolls and soft toys was to ask for a real baby. ??!! After a horrified explanation that you don't buy babies it turned out that it was ok anyway as Amy doesn't want a baby as a reward, she wants to go to 7-11 and be allowed to buy anything she wants. Poor deprived child, hey?
My repeated explanations that completion of this reward sheet in no way guarantees the getting of the chosen reward (or any reward for that matter) are falling on deaf ears as they count how many more nights of miraculously dry beds they need before the puppy arrives....
I have about 7 more days to work out what to do.
Or I could just start giving them a big glass of juice before bed, I guess...