2010年4月20日火曜日

Sisters are doin' it for themselves

...standing on their own two feet....

I danced to that as a witch in my Grade 4 play. Just a bit of Tuesday trivia for you.

Meg and Amy are pretty self reliant. I don't mean the leave them here with a carving knife, a chook and a box of matches kind of self reliant but the find your own fun, play together without adult assistance/ interference, go to sleep without mummy holding your hand kind of thing (not that there's anything wrong with all that but it's just not the way we do things). Anyway, they are pretty self reliant. Most of the time I encourage and praise this. It is important to me that they are kids who question things, think outside the box and make their own decisions. For cultural reasons this is less important to K who occasionally baulks at their free spiritedness. My favourite example was when we took them to a gospel concert and they climbed down from the bleachers and danced beside the stage. I was pleased as punch to see them enjoying themselves and the music so much. K was rather horrified and embarrassed.

Occasionally though even I think they are going a bit far and I reign them in a bit. Unsupervised cooking is definitely a no when you are 4 years old. As is giving your sister a time out because she annoyed you (Meg). These are easy for me to stop as I see it as a safety or parent's role not child's role issue.

But at the moment I have a bit of a quandary. Meg has made up a rewards chart. Yes, bad parenting I know but we used rewards charts to toilet train them. That all finished years ago though. But it seems Meg still remembers:


She wrote it in a rush and didn't finish but what she's got says "Megumi and Amy" Inside the sunshine it says "Let's do our best to get our reward" The picture is a dog she split in half with Amy's side on the left and hers on the right. She has written the numbers 1-10 for each of them. This paper is magnetted to the fridge.

Each morning this conversation ensues:

Did you wee your bed last night?
No!
I didn't wee my bed either!
Let's colour in another number!
Yeah!

Despite the fact that they don't wet the beds anymore anyway this conversation is always conducted with great surprise and excitement.

And the reward they are working towards? A big hint to what Meg wants is right there on the poster- a real puppy. Poor kid has been wanting a dog for over a year now and while it would be difficult when we go away we would love to make her dream come true if it wasn't for the fact that she is allergic to dogs and comes out in hives when she touches them. Poor kid.

And Amy? Meg's suggestion for our little mother to all the dolls and soft toys was to ask for a real baby. ??!! After a horrified explanation that you don't buy babies it turned out that it was ok anyway as Amy doesn't want a baby as a reward, she wants to go to 7-11 and be allowed to buy anything she wants. Poor deprived child, hey?

My repeated explanations that completion of this reward sheet in no way guarantees the getting of the chosen reward (or any reward for that matter) are falling on deaf ears as they count how many more nights of miraculously dry beds they need before the puppy arrives....

I have about 7 more days to work out what to do.

Or I could just start giving them a big glass of juice before bed, I guess...



9 件のコメント:

Semsavblanc さんのコメント...

Your girls are so amusing. I think they might get that from their Mum. I think the juice could be your only solution, or maybe a kitten?

achan さんのコメント...

That's what you get when you teach your kids to think outside the box, it encourages creativity!! They are so cute.

...and I agree with Semsavblanc that they get it from YOU

Nay さんのコメント...

I wish I was as creative as your two girls when I was younger. Imagine all the stuff I could have gotten out of it :P

It's a shame Meg is allergic to dogs. I couldn't imagine wanting a pet so badly but physically not being able to have one...

Lulu さんのコメント...

Love it! They are so creative and achan is right because it is good they can think outside the box!!!

dog allergies are from the hair/dander or saliva right? Which is Meg`s allergy? If it is hair then maybe try a hairless breed like italian greyhound or one that doesnt shed much?

Or go for a pet turtle!!!!

Xana さんのコメント...

I think the Obamas got some sort of non allergenic dog for their daughters (a Portuguese water dog??), because the president's kids must have a pet. Don't know how many homeless Portuguese water puppies are living in Shinshu though. We have lots of lost baby turtles in Gifu in the summer though. Takyubin?

At least now I know Maya is not the only one who gives her little sister time outs. Not only that, but Lana will actually do them!

Brenda さんのコメント...

Your last sentence gave me a good chuckle. Like the "oh shit! I nearly woke up my sleeping baby" kind. Can't wait for someone to discover your blog and ask if they can turn into a movie or TV series, and then I can brag that I knew you back when :)

anchan さんのコメント...

Your girls totally crack me up! We would also love to get a dog, but W is very allergic too. Apparently, poodles are very allergy friendly as they don't shed, and there are a number of other breed that could be suitable for allergy sufferers if you do a search in the internet.

Kim さんのコメント...

LOVE your solution - juice! Too funny! A pink bicycle wasn't enough of a reward to get Jun to go to sleep by herself. Either that or her Mother caved in too soon. Oh well...

L. さんのコメント...

Dogs give me hives, too, but some poodles (not all of them -- depends on the individual animal) are fine.