2010年1月12日火曜日

the good wife

I don't make miso soup every day.

My husband has got used to cereal for breakfast.

I can't remember the last time it was me who put the rubbish out....

K does a lot more housework than the average (or stereotype anyway) Japanese husband.

I am only the first one out of bed on weekends...

I believe in giving my vacuum cleaner generous R&R breaks between workouts.

But even with all those black marks against my name I think I'm a good wife.

Hell, today I think I'm a fabulous wife.

Not only did I make K his lunch (including my new invention- the egg poach/fried on top of the rashers of bacon so it all melds together) and pack it in completely disposable containers (including chopsticks, wipe and snack) because for some unknown reason the same guy who is forever grateful to take a home packed lunch on the train to Tokyo (and miss out on the exotic delicacies available at Tokyo station department store food courts- what a waste!) would be mortified at having to carry the empty box home again- whatever, but I also managed to be very polite when I called 5 minutes after he left to inform him his lunch was still sitting in the genkan where I had placed it (thinking naively that he would notice the unusual package with clearly visible mandarin in it, remember that he'd asked for a packed lunch and put two and two together, but no) offered to deliver it to work and then stood out on the kerb so he wouldn't have to get out of the car when he said no, he'd come back for it.

That's right. I was out in my PJs, snow jacket, beanie and snow boots, trying to keep my back to the wind as squalls of snow were coming at me from all directions with one hand stuffed in my pocket and the other freezing to death holding K's lunch waiting for him to drive up so I could pop it through the passenger side window.

I even smiled and said 'drive safely'.

And that's why I'm a good wife and have rewarded myself with a morning of coffee, cookies and sitting in front of the fire wasting time on the internet.

Of course a really good wife would be polishing the floors or at least putting away the dishes or something but hey, I've gotta pace myself...

5 件のコメント:

kel さんのコメント...

Every time I go to comment I forget what it was I was going to say. Sorry!!!

I guess what I'm trying to get across here is that while I hardly ever comment, I love reading your posts and always get excited when I realise you've updated. So glad you're back to blogging!

And standing out in the cold to deliver a bento is definitely in the good wife category in my books!!!lol

Lulu さんのコメント...

Agree with Kel- standing in the cold to give a bento definitely puts you in the good wife, or even GREAT wife category!!!

Your post made me smile. I don`t make miso soup either- and even when I do, it is almost ALWAYS the instant kind. HAHA!

Midori さんのコメント...

I think that just remembering to make the lunch should win you perfect wife points! :-) I have come to the conclusion that the Japanese perception of a good wife/mother or even girlfriend is SO vastly detached from the UK way of doing things that sometimes I wonder what on earth I was thinking trying to live up to Japanese "standards"!!
Your post did make me smile though as I was constantly made to feel bad for not doing everything a good Japanese wife would do!
It also made me miss Japan in a very weird way...

Brenda さんのコメント...

Oh my goodness! I've said this on many occasions, but you put me to shame you're such a good wife! I've even said to Akinori before "Sorry I'm not a good wife like Heather". Luckily he never complains because he married me for my bedroom skills and not my kitchen skills ;P

thefukases さんのコメント...

kel- thank you! I enjoy writing and it's great to hear people enjoy reading.

Lulu- thank you. Instant miso soup, heh? Does it taste noticeably different? My problem is I like throwing everything in the soup and then it becomes a main meal rather than a side dish...

Midori- I sometimes wonder if this would be a very different marriage if we lived elsewhere. Even elsewhere in Japan, this neighbourhood is just so traditional that I think I'm rebelling and find out I'm still pretty conservative!

And anytime you really miss the dutiful Japanese wife thing you are more than welcome to fedex a bento this way. :)

Brenda- NOOOO!!!! What pressure!! If you want I'll tell Akinori all the things K does around the house because of his useless/ lazy/ princess of a wife sometime. Then he'll really feel sorry for K!

And really- you can outsource cooking and cleaning much less scandalously than the other, hey? ;P