2008年11月2日日曜日

Good friends

Short post as I have stayed up waaaaaay past my bedtime talking and listening and talking and laughing and then talking a little more for good measure.  My dearest friend and her family are camped out in my living room.  We first met in Saitama after a shout out on MIJ.  I was terribly nervous to be meeting someone who I only knew online and it turned out so was she.  Four of us met that day and we just clicked.  One still lives there, I moved to Nagano, one moved to New York via Osaka and my friend moved to a different city.  But despite the fact we now live 3 1/2 hours on the expressway from each other we still just click.  Each time we meet it's like it was yesterday we were saying goodbye rather than 6 months ago.  

When we first met it was with our 3ish month old daughters.  Now we each have a 5 year old and a 3 year old.  Since I moved to Nagano our meetings have become overnight stays due to the distances involved.  The first time we tried it we had a 2 1/2 year old and a 6 month old each. @_@  M was slow to talk but huge for her age and very fast, determined, stubborn and loud.  N was a very early talker and had very advanced social skills but was a waif next to M physically.  The weekend was a disaster!!!  Between screaming, crying, wailing, sobbing and post cry hiccupy sniffing I don't think all 4 kids were quiet at the same time all weekend.  @_@  When she went home I was utterly devastated and certain that that was the last I would see of my friend.  But no, she is such an amazing person she forgave us and invited us down to hers.  And it was better, not great, but better.  

Fast forward a few years and here we are.  N has matured physically and M is much more settled now that she can express herself verbally.  After the first shy 20 minutes this morning all four kids have had a ball.  They still like different games and play in different ways but the five year olds are able to negotiate and compromise now and the three year olds are bubbling with joy bounding around like puppy dogs and copying their big sisters.

I can't believe how lucky I was finding my friend, having the courage to head to the huge and bewildering and downright frightening monstrosity that is Omiya station that Sunday morning.

From that fist meeting has grown a friendship five years strong and as I watch our kids so happy playing together I dream of many more trips up and down the highway between our houses in the years to come.  And I'm filled with gratitude to whoever, whatever, that of all the roads we could have walked in life we chose the ones that crossed as they did.


Even fairies need downtime.  M, A, and N.  H elsewhere.

4 件のコメント:

Lulu さんのコメント...

It is so nice to read about the connection you have with your friend!

Benay, Sara & I have all met each other but we have not yet all met up together as a group of three but I am looking forward to the time we can (either at my wedding in May or in June when I return to Japan) and despite the distance between us I hope that we will enjoy a friendship similar to that of what you have with your friend.

Sometimes friends come into our lives and despite distance and infrequent visits there is just that spark there that allows for the friendship to take off from where it left off 1 month, 6 months or even 12 months earlier.

Enjoy the rest of your time with your friend- it is great that the kids all got along well together.

Nay さんのコメント...

I'm glad to hear that you are enjoying your time with your friend. It is great to have friends that doesn't matter the distance between you, when you see each other it was like it was yesterday, isn't it! It's great to hear that your children as well are enjoying each other's company too!!

I met up with a couple of foreigners today, but am planning on writing about it tomorrow, so won't write anything about it here!! lol!

Sara さんのコメント...

Yay what a happy post!
Its nice to hear about your 5 year (!) connection with your friend :) And having daughters the same age too! It must be a lot of fun now! Before sounds like a bit of a nightmare!!

I never had a lot of girlfriend back in America but that ones i have made while in Japan even if we live far apart feel so important and close to me.

Its like that gift of friendship is so special here and the connection that most of us have regarding international relationships, billingual child raising (ok not an issue for me yet... but) and having PEOPLE TO TALK ABOUT IT WITH is sooooooooooo great!!!

Hope you had a WONDERFUL trip!! I'm looking forward to getting the chance to meet you when I get settled into Niigata ;)

thefukases さんのコメント...

Lulu, Nay and Sara- when you guys finally all met up you better block out three days straight for talking and laughing and talking some more, hey? Forget getting a dvd to watch or going somewhere together- you won't notice anyway!!

It's so weird for me feeling like this about someone. I've never done the BFF thing before. I had school friends at school, work friends at my PT job, neighbourhood friends at home etc etc but there was noone who I'd call up. Saved my parents so much on phone bills hey?

I think there's something in what Sara said. I didn't really bother nurturing my relationships back in Australia because I had so many different connections with so many people. Here every friend is such a precious find you've got to reach out, hold on and never let go!